Getting Started

Getting over being dumped is never a walk in the park. As a matter of fact, it ranks right up there with getting a root canal. And then there are all the stages of grief that are overwhelming - the denial, anger, bargaining, depression and, finally, acceptance. It's almost like someone died.

However, if you're not ready to accept the death of your relationship and throw in the towel, maybe these tips can help you get your ex back. As someone once said, "nothing in this world is impossible."
There are 5 common mistakes that most people who have been dumped make while trying to re-unite with their ex. If after reading this article, you are able to avoid these killer mistakes, you will give yourself a fighting chance to get your ex back with thoughtfulness and class. They won't know what hit them!

Step One - How to Stop A Breakup 

There are 5 common mistakes you must avoid

1. Begging. Your ex decided to dump you for a reason, so if you want to get back together you must do everything possible to rekindle their interest. Begging your ex to take you back makes you look very needy. Besides making you look very unattractive, it tends to reinforce to your ex their reason for splitting up in the first place.

2. Harassing your ex. By calling, texting, serially emailing, or showing up uninvited, you make it appear like you don't have any friends. Frankly, this behavior smacks of stalking. This is highly unattractive and will make it hard for your ex to be interested in getting back with you. Keep it up and you will just push them further away.

3. Acting desperate. Don't promise to do anything your ex-lover wants. Maintain your principles. And definitely don't offer to buy them any presents. Trying to buy someone's affection is never the way to go. It may seem like a good strategy, until you actually do it. Do you really want to place yourself in such an uncompromising position? Ultimately, it just makes you look like you don't have a life and that is highly unattractive.

4. Being Available. Disappear. Get Lost. Vamoose. I know... you're saying, but how I get back together if I don't talk to them? Well... because breakups are notorious for being emotional cesspools, it's best that you back off, until you can regain your composure. You see?

Use this time to hang out with your friends, or catch up with your career. Calm down and re-engage with your life until those overwhelming emotions subside.

This is also a ideal time to work on your fitness and general health. Get your rest. Eat well and recharge. Once you start enjoying your life again, you're going to look very attractive to a lot of people. And the one person who will probably notice how well you're handling this separation is your ex. So get Ready.


5. Panicking. You're already upset... and if you have committed any of the above mistakes then you'll need to gather yourself. Once you have collected yourself, if you still want your ex back you'll be in a much better mental space to rationally make a strategy and take action.

The proper mindset for getting your ex back does not include begging, acting in desperation, harassing your ex, being available, or just plain panicking until you have lost all your self-respect. The right mindset (staying calm) is crucial to approaching this endeavor in that certain way, which will more than likely re-awaken those attractive qualities that made them fall in love with you.

Who said, lightning doesn't strike twice.

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